Big News

We are pregnant!

Today we are 12 weeks and 2 days! I think we are still in shock about the whole thing. After we had the miscarriage we kept trying at home with no luck. I finally asked my doctor for a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist, she put one in for me and after meeting with the RE twice and completing a water ultrasound she suggested an IUI with 50mg of Clomid. Tina and I agreed. We went in for the IUI on Father’s Day (June 17), when she did the ultrasound she only saw one follicle and asked if we wanted to continue with the procedure. Tina and I both said yes, we were excited and this was a lot less stressful then doing the procedure at home. 2 weeks later while I was out of town I called Tina early in the morning and told her that I really wanted to test, there was no way that I could wait until I got home. So I tested and when the test read “Pregnant” I laughed and cried at the same time. We were both amazed.

It took us longer than planned to get where we are at today, but we would not change a thing. We are beyond happy and cannot wait for March10th!

In other news we are selling our current house and moving into a new house in September. We will both be closer to work. Currently I drive 45 mins to work, at the new house I will be about 15 mins away. We close on the new house at the end of September; we hope our current house sells soon!

Also, I start my Doctorate in October! All this awesome stuff is happening! Life is great!

Why oh Why?

This sucks! I ordered the sperm last Thursday and scheduled for it to be shipped out today so that it will arrive Tuesday morning. Well, I surged last night (Sunday) and was already stressing a little about timing. We decided that when we received the sperm on Tuesday it would be 36 hours since I detected the surge and that everything would be perfect. I must say that I really thought that I was going to be surging on Wednesday and ovulating on Thursday so I was really surprised when I saw that smiley face last night! But, I said to myself, Self everything is working out perfectly. Now we don’t have to worry about doing this while we are out of town and we can relax over Thanksgiving. Well, I noticed that I had not received the shipment conformation so I decided to call them. I messed up… BAD! I scheduled the sperm to be shipped out next Monday! It was too late in the day to change it and Wednesday morning will be way too late. I am having a real hard time with this. I really wanted to be pregnant by our original due date. I know that it will not make all the pain go away. But, I sure do think it will help. Now we know that I will not be pregnant by our original due date (December 19^th). I am honestly a mess, it just sucks. 

Not Yet

Well, I got my period yesterday. We will try again next month. We know it will happen soon. We are trying to be patient! But it’s hard! 

Testing Early

Is a bad idea! Let me tell you about our morning. We talked about testing this morning. I wanted to but was afraid at the same time. I think Tina felt the same way. Well I tested and that stupid little stick read “Not Pregnant”. I was not too mad at first. I know its a few days early. I still had hope. Then I decided to take the dogs out. When I let them out of their cages Mitzy ran into the bedroom, she likes to say hi to Tina so I was not that concerned about it. She was in there longer than normal so I went to check on her. She had pooped! I was a little upset about that, but I cleaned it up real quick and headed to the front door to take them out. Once I got there I noticed that she was pooping again! That was the kicker. I lost it! I love Mitzy, but I am tired of cleaning up after her! We might have to send her to obedience/potty training!

                After dealing with my emotional outburst I had to go to work. We had planned on running 4 miles this morning. We started running and I was so mad that I was running much faster then I usually do. I started getting tired around the 2 mile mark so I slowed down to my normal pace. Running has been a great stress reliever for me. I enjoy it, I look forward to it, and it has allowed me to lose weight. My only issue with it is that my legs are constantly hurting! I was hoping that the pain would get better with time, but I have been running for a few months now and it is pretty much constant. I hope it gets better soon.

                I will post on Friday to let everyone know what the little stick says! 

Coming out

                Yesterday was a crazy day!  I will start by reminding everyone that for the first 2 and a half years of our relationship Tina and I had to keep our relationship a secret at work. She was my boss for some of that time so it was hard, but we did it. After the Don’t ask, Don’t tell policy was lifted I have wanted to tell people at work and have been stressed about it. I just didn’t know how to do it. Well Tina and I talked about it this past week and she gave me some ideas and talked me though what exactly I was scared about. I felt better about telling people after that. Then, yesterday at work I wore my wedding band all day. One of my friends asked me if I got married during my vacation. I decided to just tell him and his wife the whole story. I did and they were excited for us and were more than accepting. It felt great and that helped me face the rest of the group.

                Everyone was very accepting and happy. Tina and I went to a hockey game with some people from work last night and we had a blast! I am so happy that I was able to tell everyone. Life is GREAT and I hope it will continue to get greater!  

I know I have been a terrible blogger lately but really nothing that exciting have been going on. We started doing at home inseminations again in August but no luck yet! We hope to find out some good news in about 11 days, we will be waiting patiently. NOT! It’s only been a few days and I am freaking already. I have already asked Tina is she thinks I’m pregnant. So everyone please have happy thoughts and pray for loads of baby dust.

We got a new puppy. This is Tina’s dog! We walked into the pet store and when they saw each other it’s like everything stopped! I knew we were going to be leaving with that dog. We walked into the store with my whole family. I guess there were about 12 of us. We were all holding and playing with dogs. Thankfully we walked in about 10 minutes before they closed. So we left that night without the dog. We told each other that we were going to pray about it. We woke up the next morning and we both said no! But, we went back and got the dog anyways. We love her. She is a Miniature Pinscher named Mitzy Bitzy. We now have 3 dogs, Fennie and Mitzy which are inside dogs and Fergie who is an outside dog. Overall she is fitting in well with our little family (But, she is still Tina’s dog).

Now that the don’t ask don’t tell policy has been repealed we will be using our names and will be posting pictures. We are both in the military so the repeal made us both very happy. I met Tina at work, she was my boss! We no longer work together, but miss each other terribly all day.

We just took a week long lazy vacation. The first few days we went to Wilmington to see Tina’s mother. We had a great time and even had a few surprises while fishing. A friend of mine at work told me that if I catch any puffer fish I should rub their belly to get it to puff up and then bounce them off the dock. I tried that, but it did not work. The fish just depuffed and stuck to the deck. I tried it a few times (with different fish and all fish lived). Then Tina caught a puffer fish and decided to throw it at a crow that was trying to steal our bait. The buffer fish almost hit the crow and then landed on his back in the water. I was mad because I thought the fish was dead, but then it depuffed and swam away. Tina was laughing like crazy. Then the next day while we were fishing on the beach Tina’s Mom told us to look, we looked towards her and there was a fox just sitting there! Tina grabbed the fishing knife and started walking towards it, but the fox walked away and just looked at us from the sand dune for a few minutes.

                                                               The Fox

Overall life here has been great. We are patiently waiting for the pregnant word to pop up again. We know it will happen!

Life

The last few months have been crazy. We inseminated, found out we were
pregnant, and then had a miscarriage. After we inseminated we truly thought
that we were not pregnant because we thought we did it too soon. But 14 days
later we saw the most exciting word ever "Pregnant". We
tested again the next day the same work popped up! It was amazing,
we were pregnant. We told our family and a few close friends, they were all
very excited for us. TLS cried when we found out, I was in shock. It took us
five tries and although I know that it takes much longer for some couples I
was beginning to get antsy; we were ready to start a family. I think after
that day we became so much closer and connected. We had created something
with love. 


Everything was going well; I was getting nauseous but never threw up. I was
tired but not terribly tired. We had gone to two doctor's appointments, one
to conform and one to do the family history and the blood work. Then we went
on vacation. We did what we love doing, camping! We went fishing, relaxed,
ate a lot, and just had a good time. Then on Wednesday May 11th I started
cramping and then I started spotting. We went to the emergency room and there
we found out that we were only measuring at 6 weeks along and the heart beat
was only around 80. I guess we both knew it was only a matter of time. That
Saturday I started bleeding and the doctor's appointment on Monday confirmed
what we already knew. We were 8 weeks and 3 days along when I started
spotting, we would have not changed anything and we know we will see our baby
in heaven one day. 
I think that we were both blaming ourselves after it happened. We were mad,
hurt, we just did not understand. I was and still am sometimes mad at my
body, I know it just happened and everything happens for a reason. But, I
just sometimes think that something's wrong with me. That I should have done
something different, I still get mad sometimes, but I know we will get
pregnant again. 
We are looking forward to trying again. We know now that we can get pregnant!
And we are excited! We are going to wait one cycle and then try after that.
We are now focusing on us! 
In other news I just graduated with my Bachelors degree. I am so excited and
I start my Masters in a few days. My degree is in Business Administration
with a concentration in Health Care Management. I never thought that I would
graduate, but TLS supported me every step of the way. She is amazing and by
far the best thing that has ever happened to me.